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Don’t React. Respond.

After recounting a disagreement with an old girlfriend, I realized my friend’s advice was right on the money. “Don’t react.  Clarify.”, she said.  It was a humbling moment.  After [...]

Vicarious Joy

I love to cook. Why do I love it? Because it brings me joy – the satisfaction of mastering something, the outlet it provides by creating something from scratch and just the delight of engaging my [...]

The Cuddle Hormone

Did you know there’s a hormone in your body that rewards you for connecting with others? It’s called oxytocin and while its exact role is not fully understood, we DO know that it plays a major [...]

Effective Communication

As bland as this title may sound, I guarantee you, it is THE tool in relationships that can help you determine if you’re with the right person or save you a ton of aggravation if you find [...]

Gravitational Pull

If you’ve been single for any period of time, you’ve probably wondered, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong kinds of women?” This is certainly something I’ve pondered more than once. I meet a [...]

Security “Priming”

One of the more interesting findings described in the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller explains how one’s attachment style is stable but plastic – that it tends to remain consistent [...]

The Distraction Strategy

Over the past few weeks, I have concentrated my posts on attachment styles, particularly the anxious type, and I’ve tried to provide insights for people of that type so they can find more success [...]

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