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Dating can suck. The rejection, the confusing signals – heck, just the investment of time and energy spent on dating sites can wear you out. But then you find someone. After days of texting and [...]

I’m a single guy in my 50’s and my status is no coincidence.  One of the reasons why I’ve never married is because of the women I’ve chosen to date. Dating the wrong women, and even more [...]

Last week I described the real reason men cheat. While most sources reference a varied list of causes, I boiled it down to one: Inner turmoil created by a negative judgment one makes about [...]

When first considering the topic of infidelity, I thought, “Why not write about the reasons guys cheat?” But to tell you the truth, the reasons out there are extensive and varied – immaturity, [...]

The short answer is no, at least there’s no evidence for this. In fact, the research shows very clearly that it’s our similarities that attract us. Since 1950 there have been 240 studies to [...]

I came across a quote recently from the poet, T.S. Eliot and found it quite profound: “We shall not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and [...]

We all want closure after someone breaks up with us. But we rarely get it. “Only you can give yourself closure” – that’s what our friends say, right? But it’s not very helpful. As humans, we make [...]

Knowing oneself is critical in order to connect with someone else. “Know Thyself” was believed to be among the inscriptions on the walls of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi.  Philosophers have [...]

“I feel like I can be myself around her” This is a common statement we make when we’ve developed a connection with someone. There’s a comfort level – a feeling of security and closeness – a sense [...]