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Here’s Urban Dictionary’s definition: the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort.  Equates to leading [...]

Confidence part II

In my last post I wrote about the mental aspect of confidence but there’s more. There’s the action piece. Maintaining the right head space will only get you so far. Real confidence is built by [...]


Confidence is a skill. While you consider that and ponder whether you agree or not, let me say it again.  Confidence is a skill – a mental skill. Contrary to popular belief, it is not [...]


If you’re an introvert like me, you’re probably all too familiar with overthinking.  We tend to spend a lot of time thinking about things.  Like any human attribute, it is neither good [...]

Giving, Not Getting

This is super important.  Many of the clients I work with are focused on the latter.  But they should be focused on the former. We are so conditioned to look at a woman in the context [...]

It’s Your Job to Lead

So here’s a recent exchange with a client. “She never initiates” “Initiates what?” “You know.  Sex.” “Why do you need her to initiate?” “So I know she wants me” “you’ve been together for six [...]

Dating Dissonance

You’ve probably heard of the concept “cognitive dissonance” but do you know what it means? It can take many forms but it’s usually when your beliefs and behavior are at odds and that conflict [...]

Ask a Great Question

We ask ourselves questions all day long. “What should I have for breakfast?” “What do I need to tackle first at work?” Pretty straightforward. But what about the big stuff? You know – career, [...]

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