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Here’s how it usually goes. She breaks up with you. You don’t understand why. You’re destroyed. You text her.  You want more answers. You think about her all the time. You can’t let her go. [...]

As another COVID variant rages across the country, I’ve been doing what a lot of people have been doing – staying in and catching up on some reading. I pulled out a book from years ago and within [...]

This plays off the quote from celebrated author, Maya Angelou, whose original quote was “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”. This is so useful in dating. If we only [...]

The space-between is a key concept in Imago couples therapy.  After rereading some literature on Imago, I thought it was important to present the space-between concept here. We think of [...]

Of course, there’s the obvious meaning – taking responsibility for your bad behavior and not blaming others for your problems. But there’s more to owning your shit than that.  There’s [...]

First, a simple definition.  Abundance is having an ample quantity. But an ample quantity of what? You know, the important stuff – time, love, money.  My mentors taught me to always [...]

This is often the question we ask ourselves after someone breaks up with us. Is there something wrong with me or did she have issues? This is just a dead-end question – no good answers are going [...]

Every once in a while, I like to give a shoutout to my introverted brothers out there. This is one of those times. Dating can be especially challenging for introverts so here are a few tips from [...]

“That’s just who I am” “I’ve had this issue my whole life” These are the kinds of things I hear from clients who over-focus on their past. They’ve had difficult circumstances, particularly from [...]