Among all the basics needed to meet women, your ability to get up the nerve to approach women is probably the most important.

It’s easy to talk yourself out of it. You might think, “She looks occupied,” or “I think she’s in a bad mood,” or even “She’s out of my league.” These thoughts can fill your mind and hold you back. However, the good news is that you can overcome your fear.

One of the most powerful things a man can do is ask a woman to go out with him. Asking her to perform any task creates a dominance-submissive structure that registers in her unconscious mind. She will be attracted to you and probably not know why. Establishing your power position sets the tone for what your relationship can become. If you’re too laid back and don’t assert yourself, the odds of landing in the friend zone go way up. That’s why it’s important to be decisive in your approach.

Here is what works:

Take a deep breath. That oxygenates your blood and relaxes your nervous system. Next, repeat a mantra – anything that makes you feel confident. Here are a few examples:

• “I got this.”
• “This is my moment.”
• “She wants me to come over.”

Additionally, you could use a statement about your past success, such as, “You’ve done this before.” After you’ve chosen your mantra, start a countdown to create a sense of urgency: 3-2-1, Go! After the countdown, take a step forward.

Having a method for approaching women you can repeat takes a lot of the guesswork (and fear) out of the situation. The more you do it, the more natural it will become.

Try it out. A strong approach sets the tone for a confident exchange, which is half the battle.

The real trick is to make it a habit. Challenge yourself to make a cold approach everyday and you will be a master in no time at all.