One of the more fundamental mistakes guys make on dates, particularly the first date, is they fail to understand, or read, the differences in feminine temperaments.

What do I mean by “read”?

Determining whether she is an introvert or an extrovert.

Knowing her temperament will tell you the type of experience she desires.

For example, an introverted woman’s interest in you will grow if she feels a connection – if there are things you have in common.

Knowing that, you can steer the conversation to interests and beliefs to see if your values align.

Introverted women also tend to prefer deeper topics rather than surface-level chit chat.

For extroverted women, it’s very different. 

They like banter and flirty exchanges.  You can tease them and be playful. 

In fact, the more you can arouse an extrovert, the better.   

How can you tell an introvert from an extrovert?

Determine how they “recharge their battery”.

Introverts generally like to be alone or do quiet things like reading when they are tired.

Extroverts recharge through stimulation, usually by being around others.

Before your first date, you should be able to get a sense of a woman’s temperament.  If you met through a dating site, there should be clues in her profile.

Is she adventurous?  Is she on the move a lot?

If so, she’s probably an extrovert.

If she likes reading, meditation or other solo pursuits, chances are she’s an introvert.

You want to start the date using both types of interactions – flirting and teasing at times and deeper conversation at others.

Look for how she responds to each.

Does she lean in closer when engaged in deep discussion?

Does she smile when you’re being playful?

Whichever one she responds to is the one you want to focus on.

Being able to read your date will give you a huge leg up in the dating game.

It will allow you to give her an experience that is in sync with her personality. And THAT will establish the early connection you need to “scoop” her up for the long term.