“How much can you know about yourself if you’ve never been in a fight?”

 Chuck Palahniuk, author Fight Club

These are the words of Brad Pitt’s character, Tyler Durdin, from the movie (and book), Fight Club.

There’s no doubt that a fight, a head-to-head battle between two men, can tell you a great deal about yourself –

How do you deal with adversity?

Can you stretch yourself to new limits?

Can you use your wits to get out of a jam?

But there’s another important benefit to knowing how to fight.

Believing in yourself.

The confidence you gain from knowing how to defend yourself is immeasurable.

That’s why I took boxing classes years ago. 

It’s also why I recommend boxing or martial arts to clients who struggle with confidence.

The hope is you never have to use those skills but the recognition that they’re there, is all you need to walk the earth with more confidence.

Your posture literally changes.

Gone are the fears of being intimidated.

The fears of being overwhelmed by challenging situations evaporate.

And let’s not forget, the air confidence you feel around women is unmistakable. 

“Teach ‘em how to dance.  Teach ‘em how to fight.”

These are the sage words of a friend who shared his parenting lessons for raising his sons.

Teach your sons how to dance or charm women.

And teach them how to defend themselves so they’re not afraid of any man.

Think how prepared you would have felt if your father taught you these lessons.

But it’s not too late.

Sometimes we have to be our own teacher and figure these lessons out for ourselves.

That’s often when the deeper learning comes.

If you struggle with confidence, take a boxing class or martial arts.  Stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone.

You’ll learn a lot about yourself.

And your belief level will go through the roof!

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