Approaching a woman is not as hard as we make it out to be.  We build it up so much in our minds that it becomes this “thing” we can’t overcome.

But approaching women is a skill like anything else.  The more you do it, the better you will get.

Want to get more comfortable approaching women?  Start talking to strangers.  Anyone will do.

Strike up a conversation in an elevator – Notice what the other person is wearing and make a comment.  I was in the elevator with a guy last week.  He was wearing a Cleveland Indians hat so I asked “Are you from there?” and voila, we had the start of a conversation.

Talk to store employees – whenever I check out at the grocery store, I bag my own stuff.  Cashiers love that and it makes them easier to engage. Then I’ll pluck an item I’ve never bought before and ask, “What do you think of this gluten-free cornbread?  I’ve never tried it before.” Again, another conversation started.

Talk to your waiter – Next time you go out to dinner, ask “what’s your favorite here?” I did this two nights ago at a nearby pub and the waiter responded, “Try the chili.  It’s the owner’s family recipe and people order it here all the time”

Remember, their response is not what’s important.  It’s the fact that you initiated a conversation with a stranger.

Questions are a great way to do that.  Why?  People generally like when others take an interest in them.

In the next seven days, approach 3 new people per day.  Not sure what to say?  Ask a question.  I promise you, by the end of the week you will feel more comfortable talking to strangers than when the week began.

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