This is a big one for women.  You say or do something that creeps them out, usually during a first encounter, and can’t recover.

Big no-no.

Most women are at a physical disadvantage to men. That makes them especially attuned to any weird or awkward vibe a guy might give off.

That’s why it’s important to be aware of this “creepy factor”.

Here’s how guys can be creepy:

  • You make eye contact multiple times but wait too long to approach
  • You stare, particularly at her body, especially her boobs
  • You invade her physical space
  • You say something of a sexual nature too early in the interaction

You get the idea. 

What’s really going on here?

First, you do or say something awkward because YOU feel awkward.  Second, that awkwardness triggers something in her that she interprets as a threat. 

So what can you do?

Watch your mindset when you approach someone.

Are you thinking “I hope

This is a big one for women.  You say or do something that creeps them out, usually during a first encounter, and can’t recover.

It can happen to the most well-intentioned guy.

You say or do something a woman interprets as a threat. 

Big no-no.

Most women are at a physical disadvantage to men.  They fear any possibility of being physically overpowered, assaulted, even raped.  That makes them especially attuned to any weird or awkward vibe a guy might give off.

That’s why it’s important to be aware of this “creepy factor” and prevent any possibility of being viewed in this light.

Here’s how guys can be creepy:

  • You make eye contact multiple times but wait too long to approach
  • You stare, particularly at her body, especially her boobs
  • You invade her physical space
  • You say something of a sexual nature too early in the interaction
  • You’re overly complimentary
  • You follow her as she’s walking away
  • You help her carry something even though she declined your help

You get the idea. 

What’s really going on during these cringe-worthy encounters?

It’s two things.

First, you do or say something awkward because YOU feel awkward.  Second, that awkwardness triggers something in her that she interprets as a threat. 

How can you correct this?

Even better, how can you ensure you come off as cool rather than creepy?

First, understand where the creepiness is coming from.  What’s going through your mind before you approach someone?

It could be something like, “I hope she likes me” or “I hope I don’t embarrass myself”.

These kinds of thoughts can lead to feelings of inadequacy and neediness, emotions quickly interpreted as creepy.

You really have to be conscious of your mindset in these scenarios and work with your coach on your thinking.

Next, be aware of the interaction.  If you say or do something creepy, she will react (she’ll physically recoil, go quiet or change the topic).  Catch yourself – say something like “Im sorry.  I think that might have come out wrong”.

You can even acknowledge you’re a little nervous – be honest with her.

To come off as cool, you just need to be natural:

  • Breathe and stay calm
  • Maintain eye contact
  • Say hello
  • Introduce yourself
  • Make an observation
  • Ask a question

Any of these sound difficult?

They’re simple, right?

So where does all the awkwardness come from?

It’s forgetting the simple stuff because fear and worry creep in. 

You can avoid creepy encounters by cleaning up your thinking, being aware, staying calm and just being yourself.

likes me” or “I hope I don’t embarrass myself”.

These thoughts can lead to feelings of inadequacy and neediness – emotions quickly interpreted as creepy.

To come off as cool, you just need to be natural:

  • Breathe and stay calm
  • Maintain eye contact
  • Say hello
  • Introduce yourself

You can avoid creepy encounters by cleaning up your thinking, staying calm and just being yourself.

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