In my early school days, the smartest kids were placed in the “advanced” class.  When it comes to meeting women, direct openers are considered the advanced class of approaching.

They usually require a higher skill level and prior experience at approaching than other types of openers.  But I actually think they’re pretty effective for beginners.

Why is that you ask?

Because they allow you to speak the truth and being genuine when talking with a woman is far easier than using a slick line that, in the normal course of events, you’d never find youself saying.

But the one challenge about direct openers is you really have to believe what you’re saying.  If you don’t, she’ll know and it won’t work.

Direct openers are statements that convey what you really feel toward her.

Here are some examples:

“I just noticed you walking in and knew I’d be kicking myself all day if I didn’t come over and say hello.”

“I saw you and had to come over and tell you that you have a beautiful smile (gorgeous eyes, great energy, etc)”

“I know you probably get this a lot but I had to tell you that you’re gorgeous and I have to know your name.”

Remember to say “hi” or “hello” before the opener.

If you intrigue her, the most you’ll likely get in response is “thank you” so be prepared with a follow-up.

I like to play off the opener so I’ll respond with “So you must get this all the time, right?”  She’ll probably respond with “not really” to which you can say “I find that hard to believe” and boom, you’re off to the races.

The key to direct openers is confidence.

Women are more intuitive than us and they can pick up on flagging confidence in an instant.

Not feeling confident when using a direct opener?

Fix your body language: smile, maintain eye contact, stand with your legs spread wider than usual (conveys strength and groundedness) .   These cues not only convey confidence, they actually make you feel more confident.

With enough reps, the confidence will come and you won’t even think about how you’re coming off.

The next time you do a double take in response to a woman you see in public, try a direct opener.   Getting that first one out of the way will make the others much easier.

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