As a single guy in his 50’s, I’ve dated a number of divorced women, most with kids, and have learned a thing or two about them. 

If you’re over 40, a large percentage of women in your age range will be divorced so it’s important to understand their perspective.

If you’re divorced yourself, you already “get” these priorities and likely share their sentiments.  As a result, you have a distinct advantage over guys like me who have not gone through it. 

Divorced women often look for guys who share their experience. 

That’s why, if you’re not divorced, you should try to understand where they’re coming from. 

These tips should help:

Don’t rush her – many divorced women, particularly those recently divorced, do not want to get into a serious relationship right away.  In fact, they’re looking for something quite different from what they had – a long-term, committed relationship with lots of responsibilities.

Be your own guy – it’s important that you have your own life and not look to glom onto hers.  Having your own interests, friends and activities will only make you more attractive.  The last thing you want to be is needy.  Have your own life where she doesn’t feel the responsibility to provide one for you.

Have fun – divorced women want to live their life and enjoy themselves.  They’re transitioning from a life with a lot of responsibility and sacrifice, maybe even missing out on the fun of their 20’s if they married young.  They want to have a good time and “drink in” life and maybe even experience things they couldn’t before.

If you’re not divorced but dating a woman who is, it’s important to understand her perspective. 

She’s likely to have a low tolerance for neediness, drama and frankly, B.S.

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