The reason I ask is because with some of my clients, they don’t.

To be fair, mine haven’t always been a true reflection of who I am.  It’s been a process.

A process of being honest with myself.

The tendency is to embellish – to make ourselves sound more interesting than we are.

But that tendency can take on a life of its own.

And you’re left with a profile that isn’t you at all.

Here’s an example from one of my old profiles:

“I’m fiercely independent”

Am I independent?



Not really.

In fact, the word “fierce” doesn’t describe me at all.

Here’s another:

“I love to travel”

Do I travel?


Do I love it?


Have I traveled a lot?

Not really.

But that statement makes it sound like I do.

Your profile should resemble you.

It’s okay to embellish but the totality of your profile should represent who you are.

Even if you’re shy, quiet or not a world traveler, it’s okay.

Be true to that.


Because you’ll attract women who like those qualities, even if you’re a little insecure about them.

Here’s how you do it:

“I haven’t traveled much but I’m looking for someone to explore the world with”

See how that works?

Here’s another:

“It takes a little time for me to warm up to someone but once I do, I’m an open book”

You may feel uncomfortable writing it and opening up but trust me, some women will read that and want to meet you.

Because you’re being honest and authentic.

The objective is not to get the most women to respond.

It’s to find the ones who are a match.

And that might be a small group but the only way to find them is if your profile truly resembles who you are.

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