What do you want?

Who exactly are you looking for?

What are the characteristics in a woman you’re trying to find?

Have you asked yourself these questions?

If not, isn’t it about time you started?

Here’s the deal.  If you don’t contemplate what you’re looking for, how will you know when you find it?

I’d like you to start taking a more pragmatic approach to an area of your life that most of us tend to apply very romantic, non-specific expectations to.

Here’s some examples of what you can ask yourself:

Is she smart?

Is she funny?

Is she high energy or more laid back?

Does she lead or tend to follow?

Is she a girly girl or more down to earth?

Does she have a tough exterior or soft?

Does she like to go out most nights or does she prefer to chill at home?

There is no right or wrong here and she doesn’t have to have the same attributes as you.

Have fun with this.  Answer my questions and come up with another 10-20 of your own.

Here’s why this exercise is important – you’re starting to take stock of what YOU want and by doing so, you’ll be shifting more control of the process into your own hands, rather than just going on dates and “hoping she likes me”.

It will also shift part of your focus away from pure physical attributes.  Let’s face it, as guys we tend to place way too much emphasis on her looks, her body, etc.  It’s how we’re wired but if that’s most of what you evaluate early on, you’re going to miss the deeper qualities that translate to long-term compatability.

Taking stock of what you’re looking for will also keep you out of bad relationships.  Avoiding the desperation of “just wanting to be with someone” or the superficiality of “chasing someone because she’s hot” is a good thing.

Knowing what you want puts you in control of your dating life, clarifies what’s important to you and most importantly, helps you know when your dream girl is standing right in front of you.

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