For generations, men held significant power in love relationships – few women went to college, had careers or were able to support themselves economically, so they relied on men.

But for decades now, women have lifted themselves up and do not need men like they used to.

What’s more, there’s plenty of evidence to suggest women are healthier emotionally, physically and have more social connections than men.

Here’s some sobering developments cited in a New Yorker article written by Idrees Kahloon:

  • In academic performance, boys are well behind girls in elementary school, high school, and college, where the sex ratio is approaching two female undergraduates for every one male. 
  • Men are increasingly dropping out of work during their prime working years, overdosing, drinking themselves to death, and generally dying earlier, including by suicide.
  • Much of a man’s free time is spent watching screens rather than doing household labor or caring for family members (Bureau of Labor Statistics)

Men are slipping and women are rising and this dichotomy is shifting the dynamics in dating.

For women in their 40’s and 50’s, they’re looking for very different things now than when they were in their 20’s:

  • They want to have fun
  • They don’t tolerate men who can’t take care of themselves
  • They’re not necessarily looking for a serious or long-term relationship

Wait a minute – isn’t this what we wanted when we were younger?

Wasn’t it the woman who wanted the serious commitment?

Times have changed.

And we have to change with them.

If work stinks, it might be time to start a job search or at least polish your skills.

If you’ve lost touch with friends, reconnect or find new ones.

If you’ve put on extra pounds, it’s time to get back in the gym.

And here’s probably the most important point – if you’re not feeling good about yourself, it’s time to find a therapist or a Life Coach to get back on track.

One of the reasons why women have fared better than men is because of their mental health. 

Women are acculturated through their relationships with other women.

Men are acculturated through their independence.


Women talk through stuff.  They get to know themselves better.  They feel their feelings.

All of this adds up to more self-awareness, greater ego strength and clearer life purpose.

Conversely, men don’t talk about things.  We hide what we’re going through.  We don’t ask for help.

And we suffer as a result.

All of this, of course, is not our fault – we’re taught to be this way from a young age.

And it’s screwing us up.

Has the pendulum swung in favor of women?

I don’t think there’s any doubt.

If you’re not having the dating success you want, it’s time to look in the mirror.

The only way things get better is if YOU get better.

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