I listened to a podcast this week on this topic from one of my mentors, Brooke Castillo, and felt it was too important not to cover here.

There is so much hate going on in the world right now.  We could all use a lesson or two on how to not hate as much.

Dating is one of those areas where it’s easy to hate – and be hated.

All it takes is being ghosted and that’s enough to hate on someone, right?

But let me ask you this – how is hating on them serving you?

We think that when we hate someone, we’re getting back at them, that they’re feeling the hate we’re putting out.

But they’re not.

Only we feel that hate.

What about when someone hates you?  How do you respond?

Maybe you didn’t handle a breakup right.  Maybe an ex is still bitter because you didn’t love her.

Are you using these to hate on yourself?

When someone hates you, it’s usually projection.

They’re unhappy because of how they feel about themselves.  You just happened to trigger them.

But it was always there.

Now, I’m not suggesting you have to love that person – just don’t make it worse by hating yourself.

Give love equal time. 

Bring compassion to yourself, even if you didn’t handle things the way you could have.

Haters usually don’t know they’re haters.

They think the objects of their hate are the haters.

Want to know if you’re a hater?

Ask yourself these questions:

Are you part of groups that complain about other people?

Are you mad about someone else’s success?

Do you feel like the world isn’t treating you right?

If you answered yes to these, think about this –

The answer to you not winning is not tearing others down.

It’s you winning!

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