Ok, I’ll admit it now – this title is a little misleading.

You’ll find out why in a minute.

First, I’d like to give props to Brooke Castillo, founder of the Life Coach School.  What I am about to cover comes right from her teachings.

Let’s talk about love – unconditional love.

It means you love someone no matter what.

Being able to love someone unconditionally is a skill that can be developed.

Once you do, you will be able to love someone even if she is different from you, doesn’t meet your expectations or hurts you outright.

Loving others unconditionally allows you to love yourself unconditionally.

Loving thoughts don’t come to you naturally – they have to be practiced.  And the more you practice, the more your capacity to love – especially yourself.

Now let’s talk about lovability.

First off – you don’t need to change anything about yourself to be more lovable.

You are already 100% lovable.

Here’s why.

Your ability to be loved is not about you.

It’s about the person doing the loving.

If someone doesn’t love you, it’s because they lack the capacity to love fully – not that you are unlovable in some way.

This is true for anything.

Think of a puppy.  Who doesn’t like a puppy, right?

Believe it or not, some people don’t like puppies.  Maybe they had a traumatic experience with a dog.  Maybe they don’t like that particular breed.

Someone’s ability to love a puppy depends on them.  But it doesn’t make that puppy any less lovable.

Your lovability is absolute.

Lovability is a reflection of the person doing the loving – not the object of the love.

There is nothing you can do to be more lovable.

The only thing that can change how much someone loves you is their capacity to love.

Are you getting this?

So next time you’re in a relationship where you love her and she doesn’t love you back, remember, it’s about her.


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