“I feel like I can be myself around her”

This is a common statement we make when we’ve developed a connection with someone.

There’s a comfort level – a feeling of security and closeness – a sense that we can be ourselves and feel accepted, no matter what.

That’s connection.

But getting to that point can be elusive.

The difference between a surface-level relationship and a deeper, connected one is often dependent on how you interact with her.

Here are some tips on how to interact with her effectively and take your relationship to another level.

Practice active listening – particularly when she’s sharing something personal.

How you handle conflict and disagreement is also important.

To do it effectively, you should:

Use”I” statements.  They help communicate your side of things but without the use of “You” statements which can be accusatory.

Validate – these are statements of understanding and affirm her beliefs and feelings are valid.  Validating can be as simple as nodding your head or saying, “I understand”.

All these things – active listening, “I” statements and validating will help you communicate better and bring you closer to your partner.

Apologize well, even when she is partially at fault, shows self-awareness and conveys your ability to take responsibility for your behavior.

Finally, it’s important to know YOURSELF in order to have a connection with someone.

Stay tuned for my next blog on this topic.

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