I know.  I know.  The word “status” conjures up all kinds of negative connotations. 

When I hear that word, I picture someone driving a Porsche and wearing a Rolex.

But that’s not what status is about.

It’s not about material things.

It’s about competence.

And whether we like it or not, there are markers that reveal our competence level.

Our job as men is to maximize those competencies.

When it comes to dating, there are very specific competencies women look for.  Here’s a few:

Having strong financials – this is not about how much money you have, per se.  It’s things like possessing little to no debt, being able to do things like travel, increasing your wealth each year.  All these things say something about your financial competence.

Being in good shape – adding muscle and losing weight are hard.  But if you do both, you’ll not only give off an air of confidence, you’ll be seen as competent – competent at taking care of yourself.

Being multi-dimensional – take a cooking class, go kayaking, read some new books – it doesn’t matter what you choose but act on your curiosity and develop yourself as a person.  The act of pursuing your interests shows competence in living a full life.

Being socially proficient – speaking confidently, keeping the flow of conversation going, being able to read people – these all demonstrate social competence.

What is the common link to all these competencies?

They require action. 

To have high social status, you need to be in action, getting better in all areas of your life. 

We all want to be loved for who we are on the inside but when it comes to attraction, fair or not, we’re judged by what our lives look like on the outside.

Building your competencies will enhance your status, and your attractiveness.

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