It happens to the best of us.

We meet someone and she “knocks our socks off”.  We can’t stop thinking about her and we make up our mind – “She’s the one!”

Infatuation is defined as an intense but short-lived passion for someone.

Why is it short-lived?

Because we find out more about them.

Infatuation implies you have not taken the time to see her weaknesses.

Here’s how to temper infatuation:

Continue dating other women – the contrast of other women helps us maintain some objectivity

Stay connected to friends – it will keep you grounded and prevent you from committing too much time to her

Do your work – that means reflecting on (preferably writing down) your thoughts on why you feel such an intense pull toward her.  Many times it’s because of a negative emotion (loneliness, insecurity, etc.).  Remember, you should like the reasons you like someone.

Infatuation always fades.  That’s how you know it’s not love…


But it can turn into it.

Allowing yourself time to see other parts of her, the parts you don’t like, will be the true test.

If you still feel strongly about her even after you’ve seen her “warts”, then you’re on to something.

And that’s how you know you’ve moved past the infatuation stage.

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