Okay, so you’ve worked up the nerve to approach her and initiate a conversation.  It’s going well.  Now all you have to do is ask her out.  Easy right?

Not so fast.  While the hard work is often approaching and getting a woman interested, some men still lock-up when it comes to asking her out.

Here are some tips to ensure that doesn’t happen.

Transition quickly –Keep the conversation to 10 minutes or less.  When you hit that mark, wrap things up and transition to the date request.

Don’t get discouraged if you hit a pregnant pause – sometimes a conversation will hit a lull and, because that makes her uncomfortable, she may look to end the conversation and move on.  Don’t worry. It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not interested. You’re both nervous and hitting a void in the conversation is natural.

Keep it simple – When you ask her for a date, get right to the point.  Say, “Would you like to…” and fill in what you’re asking her to do.  I suggest coffee, preferably at a cafe.  That keeps it simple, brief and low pressure.

Be specific – women will respond better to a specific invitation than a vague one.  Vagueness conveys a lack of intent and purpose and is a turn-off.  “Wanna go out sometime” is not recommended.  Try something like, “Wanna meet for coffee Tuesday night?  I know the perfect place.”

Approaching a woman and initiating conversation require some level of skill but asking her out on a date is straight forward.  Just follow the tips above and you stand a much better chance of landing a date during your first encounter.

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