Mehrabian breaks down the 93% by attributing 55% to body language and 38% to tone of voice.
While these percentages have been disputed over the years, one constant remains – body language is hugely important if you want to have a successful interaction with another person.
When it comes to approaching women, one particular non-verbal, posture, is critically important for conveying confidence and positivity.
Here’s the basics:
Head high – maintaining eye contact (another important non-verbal communication) will help you keep your head up. Most people have a tendency to shift their gaze – to the side, looking down at the floor, etc. Keep your eyes on her and your chin up and you’ll have the right positioning for your head.
Back straight – I have an image for you – a tall, sturdy oak tree. That’s how your back should be aligned. If you don’t like the tree analogy, think of something else that’s straight and sturdy.
Shoulders back – imagine two strings inserted into each shoulder from the back and pulled. That’s how you should hold your shoulders – pulled back as if someone behind you was pulling the string.
Legs spread – this is used when you are standing, talking with a woman rather than during your approach. Having your legs spread slightly wider than normal is a high-status behavior. It conveys a strong physical presence. It will also allow you to feel more rooted, more substantial.
Good posture, like any non-verbal communication, is critical when interacting with a woman.
Practice these four simple tips and you’ll start to see women responding positively to you before you even open your mouth.