Want a quick way to turn off your date?

Complain to her about something she did or said.

Actually, you don’t even need to complain.  Merely reacting to something you don’t like could repel someone you’re trying to get to know.

Here are some of the things women do early in the dating process to piss us off:

  • Take their time responding to texts
  • Make other plans the night we’re supposed to talk
  • Don’t take an interest in us – we ask all the questions

I don’t know about you, but these things push my buttons – and for good reason.  They’re kinda rude, right?

But they happen all the time in the dating world.

I try to give women the benefit of the doubt.  If someone is not responsive, I tell myself “She has things going on.  She’s not doing it intentionally.”

The bottom line is – they don’t know us. 

If you just met someone on a dating app, you’re not a real person to her until you actually meet her, in person.

Another thing to keep in mind – most women have been jerked around by their share of guys too.  That’s why they’re often aloof or guarded in the beginning.

But it’s just a defense mechanism.

Which is why you don’t want to be too reactive yourself and compound things.  Besides, such strong reactivity just wreaks of neediness and hypersensitivity.

That is not the vibe you want to give off, even if it’s justified.

To keep things on track, it’s important, as the guy, to bring some calm to the situation.

To do so, you need to manage your thoughts, which will keep your emotions in check.

If something she did or didn’t do pissed you off, vent to a friend.

Or do a thought download, which is no more than writing down whatever is going through your mind. 

Either approach will help you process what you’re feeling and should provide some relief.

And here’s a final thought – watch out for a pattern.

If you find yourself repeatedly reacting to someone, it could be her.

Ask yourself whether it’s worth it to pursue this woman in the first place.

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