During the 90’s, I was a big fan of the TV show, Seinfeld, and there was a classic episode where George decides changes are in order in his life.

To make those changes, he decides to do the opposite of what he would normally do.

He changed his lunch order. 

He approached a woman when he would normally do nothing

And voila! 

His life was instantly better.

Wouldn’t that be nice?

If we could just do the opposite and see our lives change right before our eyes?

But reinventing yourself is not a series of in-the-moment, binary choices like George made.

It’s more conscious than that.

One reason you may not be having more dating success is because you’re not happy with the present version of yourself.

But in order to reinvent yourself, you need to access new parts of your brain.

Our brains want to make incremental changes – “I’ll change my hairstyle” or “I’ll learn a new skill like learning a new piece of software”.

But to reinvent yourself, you need a deeper, mind-blowing shift.

Consider this – If my daily functioning is based on my interpretation of the world around me, doesn’t it follow that I should evaluate what I put into that interpretation?

Especially if my functioning is not at the level I want it to be?

How am I spending my time?

How do I think of myself when I have a setback?

How do I see my future career path?

These are the kinds of questions that shape how you see yourself, which determine the results you get in your life.

Changing that view is the way you reinvent yourself.

Reinvention starts with questioning your present reality and then setting an outrageous goal to stretch your life toward a new reality.

As you stretch yourself, you’ll be forced to decide what’s working and what you need to let go of.

What started out as a conscious decision on your part to change, gradually becomes a natural, almost unconscious, pull – a new future that’s pulling you toward it.

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