No big deal, right?

A woman doesn’t like you and you move on.

Wrong.

We make rejection a HUGE deal!

If a woman doesn’t like us, it must mean something.  It affirms something negative we already thought about ourselves – we’re not attractive, smart, successful or lovable enough.

Here’s the deal.

It’s not a woman’s rejection that makes you feel bad.  It’s the thought you’re thinking about that rejection that’s doing it.

If you’re hurt when you get rejected, it’s because YOU rejected yourself ahead of time.  Her rejection merely triggers it.

Rejection isn’t something that happens to you and you feel bad.  You have to think something negative about yourself in order to feel rejected.

Want to get past your feelings of rejection?

Take responsibility for them.

Acknowledge that you are driving it.  If you don’t, you will continue to feel powerless, like someone else is doing it TO you.

They say in sales if you’re not getting a lot of no’s, you’re not doing it right.  Same thing with dating.

You have to be willing to be rejected in order to get the yes’s.

The most successful people – celebrities, athletes, business leaders – are ones who get a ton of rejection.

They just plow through – go on to the next one, and the next one, and the one after that.

We learn at a very young age the importance of fitting in and being part of the pack.

It’s in our DNA – we need a community.

The fear of rejection is very primitive – our minds equate it with death.

We come to believe that rejection is the result of some personal failing and the best way to avoid the experience of feeling unworthy is to not take risks, to not risk rejection.

There’s only one problem.

We don’t realize our full potential.

Any time you create something, you risk rejection.  That includes just approaching a woman and talking to her.

You’re putting something out there for someone to see, and judge.

There will always be people who reject you no matter what you do.

Why not pursue your desires in the process?

Your willingness to be rejected is where you’ll find your own approval

It’s time to put approval of yourself ahead of other’s approval.

What would your life be like if you approved of yourself all the time?

What could you achieve?

 

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