So I was watching one of my favorite movies, Sea Biscuit, and heard a profound line from one of the main characters which got me thinking.

Tom Smith, the trainer, is trying to rehab Sea Biscuit.  The horse had been so mistreated and damaged, it didn’t know how to run a race.  He was all over the track.

 “He just needs to learn how to be a horse again”, Tom says.

“How do we do that?”, asks the owner Mr. Howard. 

Tom smiles and the next scene cuts to them in the open woods. 

“How far do you want me to take him?”, asks Red Pollard, the jockey, sitting atop Sea Biscuit. 

“Until he stops”, says Smith. 

Red opens it up and lets Sea Biscuit run as fast as he can for as long as he can.

“You’re an amazing animal” Red yells.

That’s right.  He was. 

And so are you.

Sea Biscuit was a metaphor for all three men.  They too were broken, trying to find their way. 

We all have the innate ability to be proud, accomplished men but it’s easy to lose our way, to forget who we are.

And to lose our sense of being a man.

How do we lose it?

Being in the world – peer pressure, family expectations, lack of male role models, abusive relationships – you name it.

And being alone.

Being a single man is enough to strip away at any guy’s identity – going on endless dates, constant rejection, seeking approval – all of this takes its toll.

But you can get it back.

If any of this resonates for you, it’s time to start reclaiming your manhood.

Here are some ideas:

  • Spend more time with your guy friends
  • Take a boxing or martial arts class
  • Go camping
  • Fix things around your house
  • Trade in your car for a pick-up truck

Get the idea?

It doesn’t matter what you do as long as it gives you a feeling of masculinity.

Notice anything about these examples?

They all involve action.

One of the reasons men get stuck in life (and their dating life) is because they stop doing things.

Taking action will get it back.

Action is what gets you results.

And results instill a sense of accomplishment, confidence and pride. 

Start taking action, any action, and your masculine energy will start coming back to you.

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  • TJ Dunhoft

    Great article Alan! I certainly felt motivated after reading it. I love the suggestion of trading in your car for a pick up truck!

    Great work! Keep it up! This work is so valuable and needed.


  • Wally parks

    Good one. Same principle keeps me sober on a daily basis.

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