This is now a “thing”.

Slow love, which is exactly what it sounds like, is the process of moving slowly in romantic relationships.  Who is responsible for this new trend?

Millennials. 

Who else?

Millennials are reshaping our lives in new and interesting ways and they may just be onto something when it comes to love.

Millennials (people born roughly between 1980 and 2000) are having less sex, dating longer and getting married later than any generation before them.

And there’s growing evidence this approach is leading to longer-lasting relationships.

In a recent piece in the New York Times, a study found that people who date three years or more before marrying are 39 percent less likely to divorce than people who rush into marriage.

They may be onto something.  The divorce rate has been around 50% for decades.

Could the problem be that people rush in too quickly when it comes to love?

Because of so much time spent in the digital world, Millennials are widely regarded as detached, lacking people skills and limited in their ability to establish intimacy.

So why should we follow their lead?

Because they’re cautious.

And they value love.

They want to make sure they’re not wasting their time with someone with whom they’re not compatible.

Isn’t that a good thing?

While many Millennials are doing “sex interviews” before going on the first date, you may want to use the general theme of “slow love” and apply it as you may.

The bottom line here is that moving slowly and being cautious can lead to more sustainable relationships.

Love has typically been portrayed as an irrational, chaotic pursuit.  You “fall” in love.  You pledge to your girl, “I’m crazy about you”. 

And for guys especially, it’s always been something where we should show our passion and “go for it”.

That’s fine in terms of “winning a woman over” and “capturing her heart” but for a successful relationship, “slow love” might be just the ticket.

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