Did you know there’s a hormone in your body that rewards you for connecting with others?

It’s called oxytocin and while its exact role is not fully understood, we DO know that it plays a major role in human attachment.

Oxytocin comes from the Greek word meaning “swift birth”.  It was first discovered in 1906 by Sir Henry Dale, a British physiologist, who found that extracts from a human pituitary gland led to contractions in a pregnant cat.

To this day, oxytocin is widely recognized as the key hormone in inducing labor and releasing milk for breast feeding.

But it’s also known for its ability to foster human connections.

Oxytocin is produced when we cuddle, hug or even when someone expresses gratitude or generosity toward us.

Oxytocin is also produced during orgasm.

How many times have you had sex with a woman, and she wanted to cuddle afterward?

It’s happened many times for me.  In fact, I’ve noticed it’s more the rule for most women than the exception.

As guys, we usually scoff at this, right?

But this is another example of women being way out in front of an issue than men.  They’re just way more attuned to their bodies and their feelings than we are.

But the lesson here is important.

We all need physical contact.  We all need to feel close to others, especially to our partners.

And oxytocin helps us do that.

It also prevents conflict in a relationship before it happens.

If we don’t prioritize things like hugging, cuddling and especially sex, we’re losing out on the benefits oxytocin has to offer.

As a result, we’ll feel less close to our partner, we’ll be less agreeable to those around us and more prone to conflict.

So, the next time you’re in relationship and your partner wants to cuddle on a Sunday morning, don’t pass it up!

You’ll not only be helping her feel closer to you and trust you more, you’ll also be helping yourself do the same.

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