The purpose of the “Disqualifier” in your dating profile is to weed out the women you don’t want and attract those you do. 

You might be asking, “Why would I want to reduce the number of women I could potentially attract?  Don’t I want to maximize that?”

No.  You don’t.

You want to stand out to those who fit YOUR criteria and standards.

Would you rather have a lukewarm reaction from many or an intense reaction from a few?

The disqualifier helps with the latter.

Women do it all the time.

Here’s an example – “I’m looking for a guy who can make me laugh”.

Translation: if you don’t consider yourself funny, don’t bother.

A disqualifier sets you apart.

And it establishes a standard by which the WOMAN feels she must qualify herself to YOU!  Not the other way around.

Why is this important?

Because most guys don’t do it.

Attractive, smart women are not used to having to qualify themselves to a guy.

Being challenged in this way is unfamiliar to them yet intriguing.

Here’s a disqualifier I’ve used: “I’m attracted to women with intellectual curiosity so if you read, especially books, message me”

See how this works?

Notice the very end, “message me”.

It’s important to have a call to action.  You need to tell them what to do if they “qualify”.


Ok then, come up with a disqualifier of your own and integrate it into your profile, preferably at the very end.

Trust me.  It will set you apart from every other guy, which is exactly what you should be shooting for.

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