So frustrating, right?

It turns out that the “vibes” you are giving off are directly influencing the results you are getting.

It’s called the “Scarcity Principle” and it’s defined by psychologist Robert Cialdini, a leading expert on influencing, as wanting what you can’t have. 

Humans place a higher value on an object that is scarce and a lower value on those that are in abundance. 

We don’t like to be told no or limited in any way.  When we are, we want it even more.

Translation?

The more intense interest you show in a woman, the less they’ll be interested in you.

There have been studies on this.  One had male subjects who were presented with women showing interest and those who were more aloof.  Sure enough, the men were more interested in the latter group.

The key takeaway from all this is not so much about showing interest or not.  It’s when you DO show interest, you are probably showing it too soon.

Showing strong interest before you’ve had the chance to get to know the woman sends unconscious signals to her brain that you are desperate, needy and even co-dependent – all major turnoffs.

This is similar to talking with a woman while slouching and not making eye contact – they are cues to her unconscious brain that you are unattractive.

So what can you do about it?

It starts with your own brain.

And managing it better.

First, ask yourself why you like her so much and write down your response.

Do you tell yourself you can’t get women like that?

Do you fall for anyone who shows interest?

Then consider, what would you rather believe about yourself?

Going into these situations with more empowering thoughts will shift your results.

But don’t go to the opposite extreme either.  Your brain might not be ready to believe “All the chicks dig me” yet.

How about something like “I’m worthy” or “Let’s see what she’s about”.

Don’t these feel better than what you were thinking before?

It’s all about your mindset and managing it to your advantage.

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