Men pursue women.  That’s just the way it is.

Is it harder to chase or be chased?

Depends on who you ask.

But one thing’s for sure.  If you’re a guy, you need to not only accept your role but to master it.

To do that, you need to overcome one inherent challenge: being the pursuer tends to put guys in a defensive position.

Here’s what I mean.

Whether it be in-person or online, we take on a posture where we think we have to convince women to like us.

We tell them how gorgeous they are.

We try to impress them with our professional achievements or the number of track medals we won in high school.

And if we’re not this overt, we’re being overly accommodating, all in the hope they will like us.

But generally speaking, women don’t respond to these things.

And here’s the kicker – it’s exactly what every other guy is doing.

When you’re an unknown, you have to stand out.

And you have to do it in a way that projects high social value.

You have to present yourself as someone who has options, even if you don’t.

Instead of trying to prove your worth, you have push her to prove hers.

Say hello to the “disqualifier”.

Stay tuned for my next blog entry where I’ll highlight this great dating tool.

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