If you’re a single guy, never married, this week’s post is for you.

If you’re over 40 to boot, you’ve probably been asked this question by women for years. 

“Why are you still single?”

My reaction to this question has evolved over the years.  At first I was confused – “I don’t know.  Haven’t met the right girl, I guess.”

Then I was defensive – “Why are you asking?”

Then angry – “I don’t know.  Why are you divorced?”

There’s one thing I’d like you to consider before you formulate your response to this question.

It’s not about you.

It’s about them.

Once I realized that, it made responding to the question much easier.

Now I joke about it more – “Well, I ran away to the circus years ago and that limited my options to the bearded lady and the Siamese twins.”

Women are going to make your “singles-ness” mean whatever they want.  The question is, are they hung up on it?

Many will downgrade you because they make it mean you weren’t desirable enough to be “claimed” by someone.


If they can’t let it go, you should let them go.

The important thing is what YOU make it mean.

Why do YOU think you’re single?

It’s ok to ask yourself that. 

But even more important, do you like your answer?

I didn’t like mine.

I wasn’t taking enough responsibility and initiative to meet women.

So I decided to do something about it.  I make myself approach women more.

And I’m helping other men do the same.

What’s your answer?

Do you like it?

Ready to do something about it?

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