To queue or not to queue.

At some point in your dating life, you will be confronted with this choice.

Do you build a queue of women on your dating app, carefully selecting one at a time to converse with and possibly date?

Or do you prefer to increase your odds and connect with multiple women simultaneously?

If it’s the former, you’ll have to be on an app that affords you the ability to queue.

For instance, Hinge has the functionality to collect “likes” from women without responding right away.  If you wait too long you risk losing her to someone else but conversely, if you wait, you can respond when your sole focus can be on her.

And that’s the major advantage to “queueing”. 

You can go at your own pace – you don’t have to be overwhelmed by text trails from multiple women, trying to keep them all straight in your head.

Chatting with and dating multiple women at once increases your odds.  If you subscribe to the “numbers game” mentality, for every 17 women you talk to, you’ll wind up dating one of them (that’s actually a statistic I found from a study).

That strategy worked great for me when I was younger.  I always had plans, had a lot of dates and felt energized by the possibilities of meeting multiple women.

But as I’ve gotten older, keeping up with all those conversations has become stressful, even overwhelming at times.

I prefer one at a time now.

And by keeping a queue in a dating app, I know there are still possibilities if the woman I’m dating doesn’t work out.

It also keeps me balanced.

I don’t get too high or low with the woman I’m with.  In the back of my mind, I know there are other women who intrigued me.

Where are you with your dating strategy?

Do you like to maximize your options or is it “one at a time”?

If it’s the latter, consider the queue.

It allows you the luxury of options, just not all at once.

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