“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken
Purpose is a key part to finding one’s match – men who strive to find their reason for being, exude confidence to women.
And it’s this quality – the pursuit of things we were put on this earth to do – that’s the special sauce when it comes to attraction.
In my coaching practice, I talk to a lot of men about their lives and what’s missing and this is by far the biggest issue for those who consider themselves, well, a bit lost.
Purpose is not just your job. It’s not a career.
It’s the path you take to find the things – people, places, activities – that speak to you, that you feel connected to.
How can you find your purpose?
By spending time with people you can be yourself around.
By pursuing a career that has meaning for you.
By pursuing activities that inspire you.
If you’re someone who has felt lost at times, there’s a good chance you’re not connected to your purpose.
Not sure how to get connected?
Start trusting your intuition – that’s the quiet voice trying to get your attention among the chatter of thoughts born from everyday life.
If this sounds totally foreign, it’s time to start a practice to quiet your mind.
I use meditation. Others journal. Some just go for a walk.
These practices help you connect to yourself and hear that voice better.
Want proof of the fruits realized from such practices?
I started meditating in my early 30’s.
That same year, I experienced something I could only describe as “hunches”. I had recurring thoughts about drawing – wanting to draw, sensing I could do it and getting excited by the pride I would feel by doing something few people could.
So, I signed up for a course, “Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain”. It was a class designed for people with no drawing experience – a one week intensive at the New School in New York.
One week later, I could draw.
I had no reason to believe I could do it – just an intuition.
We all have that power – to uncover a part of ourselves we didn’t know was there – and in the process, redefine who we are.
What’s that thing you’ve always had a hunch about?
Isn’t it time you pursue it?
