“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.”

                                                      Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken

Purpose is a key part to finding one’s match – men who strive to find their reason for being, exude confidence to women.

And it’s this quality – the pursuit of things we were put on this earth to do – that’s the special sauce when it comes to attraction.

In my coaching practice, I talk to a lot of men about their lives and what’s missing and this is by far the biggest issue for those who consider themselves, well, a bit lost.

Purpose is not just your job.  It’s not a career.

It’s the path you take to find the things – people, places, activities – that speak to you, that you feel connected to.

How can you find your purpose?

By spending time with people you can be yourself around.

By pursuing a career that has meaning for you.

By pursuing activities that inspire you.

If you’re someone who has felt lost at times, there’s a good chance you’re not connected to your purpose.

Not sure how to get connected?

Start trusting your intuition – that’s the quiet voice trying to get your attention among the chatter of thoughts born from everyday life.

If this sounds totally foreign, it’s time to start a practice to quiet your mind.

I use meditation.  Others journal.  Some just go for a walk.

These practices help you connect to yourself and hear that voice better.

Want proof of the fruits realized from such practices?

I started meditating in my early 30’s.

That same year, I experienced something I could only describe as “hunches”.  I had recurring thoughts about drawing – wanting to draw, sensing I could do it and getting excited by the pride I would feel by doing something few people could.

So, I signed up for a course, “Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain”.  It was a class designed for people with no drawing experience – a one week intensive at the New School in New York.

One week later, I could draw.

I had no reason to believe I could do it – just an intuition.

We all have that power – to uncover a part of ourselves we didn’t know was there – and in the process, redefine who we are.

What’s that thing you’ve always had a hunch about?

Isn’t it time you pursue it?

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