This is how it goes down:

You’re matched on a dating site. 

You send a message.

She messages you back.

You’re excited.  You really like her.

You message her again.

This time a day goes by and no response.

“What’s going on?”, you wonder.

Now you’re down on her.

You send another message and it leads to a nice exchange.

“This is good”, you think, and you’re looking forward to her response.

But it doesn’t come.


This is the Yo-yo – the up and down existence of searching for your match on dating apps.

One day you’re excited about a woman and you’re potential together and the next day you’re ghosted.

It’s enough to make you nuts!

But to get through it, and to help yourself the next time it happens, it’s important to keep a few things in mind.

First, and this is the toughest part, she’s just not that into you.

If she was, she’d be way more responsive.

Second, you’re never going to know why she wasn’t into you.

That’s also tough.  We all want closure.  We want a “yes” or “no” but dating apps are the world of “maybe”.

Finally, you’re better off moving on.

Spend your time seeking out new women or engaging with women who HAVE been responding to you.

You can let the yo-yo get the better of you or you can be real with yourself and acknowledge what is happening.

She has limited interest in you, at best, and you’re doing all the work in a relationship that hasn’t even started.

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