This is super common for men, particularly younger men.
You start dating someone and once you sense the attraction is mutual, you can’t wait to get her in the sack.
But why? What’s the rush?
If she genuinely likes you, she’s not going anywhere.
But yet you get impatient and she feels pressured.
That leads to awkwardness with a woman who, let’s face it, you don’t even know that well.
There’s usually an inherent gap between a man and woman’s readiness for sex.
To understand why this gap exists, let’s start with a little biology lesson.
Did you know that testosterone production leads to tension and irritability?
And what is a man’s go-to response when stressed?
That’s right – sex, either solo or with a partner.
Researchers at Dennison University in Ohio asked 249 adults for all the reasons they had solo or partner sex. Among the women, 25 percent cited stress relief, among the men, 80 percent.
But there’s more going on here.
Men who are too focused on sex are usually overcompensating for a deeper insecurity.
These insecurities vary – trust issues, inability to communicate or a general sense they have little to offer. The sex is used to prevent the relationship from going deeper and getting found out, which, invariably happens.
Sex, no matter how good, is not enough to sustain a relationship.
If you’re preoccupied with it, ask yourself why.
Sure, the biological component is part of it but there’s likely something deeper and it probably has something to do with how you feel about yourself.