What do you do when a woman tests you?

Do you test her right back?

Do you come back with a witty response?

Or do you react?

Women are notorious for testing guys, particularly high-value women.  They want to see what kind of man you are.

How do they test you?

There’s all kinds but I want to focus on ones they use early on – when you first start interacting with them.

It could be a challenge on your first call and how you react will go a long way toward determining your connection with them.

Here’s one I’ve gotten a number of times:

“So what’s your deal?”

First suggestion – don’t put pressure on yourself to answer the question literally.

Second suggestion – have fun with it.

You could react and say, “What kind of question is that?”

Or you could come back with a playful response.

“Well, I used to be into street hooking but now I’m doing more stripping and bachelorette parties.”

Just because she’s asking you a tough question, doesn’t mean you have to answer it.

And it doesn’t mean you have to be on the defensive if you do.

Introverted guys, like myself, need practice with this. 

Thinking on our feet doesn’t come naturally for guys like us and we’re likely to answer the question as it’s been asked.

It’s easy to get caught up in a game of dominance.  “I’ll one-up her and now ask her a tough question back.”

That’s certainly a game you can play.

Or you can just have fun.

Dating doesn’t have to be a back-and-forth game or test.

It should be about having a good time with the other person and getting to know her. 

When she tests you, just roll with it. 

It doesn’t have to be a test if you don’t want it to be.

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