This week’s email has a strong psychological theme.  If that’s not your thing, you may want to stop here.

But I challenge you to read on.  You might find it insightful.

I was reading an article by self-help author, Mark Manson, and thought he had good insights into the difficulty of dating.

One passage in particular caught my attention:

In short, our unconscious is wired to seek out romantic interests who it believes will fulfill our unfulfilled emotional needs, to fill in the gaps of the love and nurturing we missed out on as kids. This is why the people we fall in love with almost always resemble our parents on an emotional level.

Which is why dating is so hard.

We’re drawn to women who give us an opportunity to transcend the emotional pain from our childhood.

But by being drawn to them, we have to experience the pain all over again.

Unfortunately, we wind up blaming and acting out on them for putting us through that.

Or we avoid the feelings altogether.

What we should be doing is using the relationship, and the interactions, as lessons – lessons for us to grow from.

And not making it her issue at all.

It’s not your partner’s job to meet your emotional needs.

That’s your job.

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