A friend once shared with me two of his parenting axioms for his sons:

Teach ‘em how to fight.  Teach ‘em how to dance.

Two simple sentences that spoke volumes.

Boys need to know how to defend themselves.

And they need to know how to woo women, and dancing is one of the best ways to do that.

We don’t have to go back too far to glimpse a time when dancing was a significant part of our culture’s fabric.  “Sock-hops” in the 40’s and 50’s were a staple in American high schools.

Dances were the way boys met girls.  Now they have all but vanished.

For a lot of men, dancing is just not cool – something about moving our hips that makes us feel, well, gay. 

And for heterosexual guys, that’s a deal breaker.

But if you can get past this hang-up, dancing opens up tons of opportunities to meet women.

Weddings, night clubs and parties are just a few places where you can shine if you know what you’re doing.

But aside from the openings you can create by merely asking a woman to dance, you have the opportunity to communicate far more to her.

Here are some other reasons you should sharpen your dancing skills:

  • It’s a way to flirt and show interest. 
  • It’s a way to show vulnerability – “I look at you and you look at me and hopefully we accept each other.”
  • It can increase your sensitivity and most guys could use some help in this area.  Studies suggest that dancers become more aware of their partner’s emotions.
  • It allows you to communicate more authentically with your partner without words.
  • If you do partner dancing, it enables you to lead and her to follow, which ultimately gets to the essence of a man-woman relationship.  It also builds trust.
  • Dancing can be a meditation where the outside world melts away and your connection with your partner deepens.

Those are just a few of the reasons why you should improve your dancing skills.

But here’s another: it will distinguish you from every other guy. 

So few men can dance well.

Go.  Take some lessons and you’ll have a leg up on your competition.

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