If you’ve been single for a while, then you’ve probably developed a story as to why that is.

And it’s probably not a happy one.

It’s likely a story focused on a shortcoming you perceive in yourself or some unfair treatment you’ve had to endure from the world around you.

Here’s a few examples:

“All women care about is how much money you have”

“All the pretty women are taken already”

“I’m not confident enough to attract high-caliber women”

“I’m too old to meet anyone.  My time has passed.”

These are just a few of the stories I’ve heard from clients. 

But you know what?

They’re always proven to be false, although the guys who think them, don’t know it at the time.

They’ve repeated them so often, they become part of their belief systems.

What’s your single story?

Take a minute to think about it.

Write down whatever comes to mind.

Then ask yourself this:

“Why am I choosing to think that?”

I’ve already stated, these stories tend to be false.  They also tend to be disempowering so the natural question is why?

Why think these things if you could be thinking something more motivating?

My single story is “I’ve never been married and don’t have kids and most women my age are divorced and HAVE kids.  Therefore, they see me as an oddity.”

I’m sure that’s how some women feel.

But it’s by no means the consensus. 

Yet it’s the story I’ve told myself for years…

Until I didn’t.

Now it’s “No marriage and no kids.  And that’s what makes me, me.”

And I’ve met women who have been intrigued by that and want to know more.

The story you’re telling yourself right now is not your final chapter.

There’s more to be written about you but you have to be willing to change the plot.

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